Posts Tagged ‘success mindset’

Stop Complaining And Blaming If You Want To Be Extraordinary

December 5th, 2011

I have written a number of articles of successful people and how they built their success out from scratch. And if you are a royal reader of my blog, you will come to notice that some people actually comment saying that those successful people are actually lucky or they have advantages.

Stop Complaining And Start To Take Charge Of Your LifeIt is true that when you think about some facts such as where you are born may be an advantage because you cannot choose where you were born. And indeed that your family background can affect your life and the results you create.

However, your life is in your hands. You are the one that is responsible for your own life. Some people said that they were born into a poor family and this is exactly why they cannot succeed. If you think about it, it is the poverty that drives most people to go out and achieve big wealth. Do not let your surrounding change you, you are the one who should change the environment.

Regardless of what disadvantages you have in your life now, you are the one that is responsible for creating your future. You can be poor or uneducated, but if you let these reasons stop you, you will never be successful. Instead, use these factors as a drive to motivate you to achieve much more. Some people say that Bill Gates is lucky because of this or that, but if the same luck is given to you, do you think you can be as successful as him?

The same goes for every other successful person in the world. They are successful and are able to accomplish so much because they understand that they are the ones who are responsible for their own life and they can and are able to create the future that they want.

You too, can do the same. As long as you are not giving excuses and complaining about life, you will be able to take charge and control your life. Some unfortunate people were born handicapped, in spite of all the disadvantages that they have, they turn those reasons that others look as disadvantages, and go on to create success in their lives.

Look at how Sylvester Stallone is able to change his life and read his story here. If you know his background and how despite all disadvantages, he is still able to breakthrough and produces outstanding results in his life, you will understand that success is something that you can control and are able to achieve. No matter who you are in this world, everyone has the same chance to achieve the success that they desire in their hearts.

Even if you are uneducated or were born in a poor family, it does not really matter. What matters most is how you respond to the event in your life. You can blame and you can continue to give excuses saying that you are uneducated or something. In the end, it is how you look at your life right now that matters most.

There is another great success story that I would like to share with you. She is a lady and her name is Oprah Winfrey. You can also read her success story here in my blog. Once you go through it, I believe you will understand that success is not created by chance or luck, it is the one who desire and put in enough commitment that eventually achieves it.

One thing for sure is that the journey to success is not an easy one. If it is that simple and easy, people will never complain or give lousy excuses why they are unable to achieve it. Therefore, you have to understand that success requires hard work and perspiration. This is why only minority are successful.

So make your decision right now that you want to be in this minority group to accomplish great results and live an extraordinary life. Decide not to give excuses or complain about your life anymore. You can be successful and your future is in your hands.

The Mantra Of Success – Think Positive

December 2nd, 2011

Everyone knows that if he or she wanted to be successful, he or she must think positive and stay positive. So, are you thinking positively?

positive thinking to successThinking positive is not the only key that you are going to require to open the door to success; however, it is considered one of the most important ones. Without this key, you will never accomplish great success in your life.

Just take a moment to think about it, how many times when you are facing an obstacle, you think positively and as a result, you discover the great things behind it? Or maybe there are times when you think negatively, and eventually they turn out as bad things?

Do you realize that most of the time when you think positively, the result you get will be positive as well? This is all because when you think positively, you will eventually act positively, and in the end you will get the positive results that you want. Although it may not be true all the time, but thinking positively does help in creating the successful life that you always desire.

If you are a salesman and its raining, you may feel lazy to go out to meet your clients. This is what is happening to most people out there. Just change your thinking a little and twist it and you can end up getting more sales during a rainy day. When it is raining, you will have fewer competitors because most people are lazy to go for appointments. When it is raining, your clients will feel impress because you truly take him seriously and wanted to serve him even if it is raining.

The same if you come across any failure in your life. As long as you take it as an experience and consistently doing it without giving up, you will eventually succeed. Do you want to know how to never fail? If you do not want to fail, never give up until you get the success you want. If you never give up, you will never fail. This is how extraordinary people produce amazing results in their lives.

Positive Thinking Is A Start

When an event occurs to you, the first thing that will happen is that you will think about something in your mind. What you think about will determine how you decide and how you act. This is why positive thinking is so important; it is the starting point of all success!

When you think that something is possible, you will try to do it and even if you fail, you will learn the experience. On the other hand, if you think it is impossible, you do not even bother to do a thing about it. How many times when something seems impossible to you, there is someone out there thinks that it is possible and accomplished it?

You know it very well that success is not an accident. You will become what you think about most of the time. If you plant an oat seed, you will always get an oat tree. There is no accident in this universe. You have to believe that everything is moving in harmony. Therefore, you will always get the results that you put into your mind. If you think negatively, you will get the outcomes that you do not want.

There Is No Harm In Thinking Positive

Somehow, you are going to think about something anyway, thus, since you are going to think about something, why don’t you just think positively?

You are not going to lose anything in thinking positively, hence, try to notice what are the thoughts that you put into your mind most of the time. When you notice that you are thinking something negative, do a pattern interrupt such as saying ‘cancel’ out loud and focus your thoughts into something positive.

For example, if you fall sick, instead of thinking about your bad condition and bad health, think about how you can take a rest and maybe read some books or how you can spend time thinking and strategizing for your future. If you fall and injured yourself, do not think about how bad the situation will be, instead, think that you are lucky because you did not break your leg or something. As long as you are alive, everything will be great for you.

It may not be easy, but with a lot of practice and focusing on the right thoughts, you can change your thought and thus, change your life.

Create The Intention Of What You Want

October 31st, 2011

The first step to achieving what you want in your life is by creating the intention in your mind. Just a simple thought of thinking about what you want is enough to create an effect big enough for you to live a big life.

Think about it, everything that you see in this world starts as a thought in somebody’s head. The computer you are using right now was once an idea in someone’s mind and it is that person’s hard work and persistence that bring his thought into reality. The mobile phone you are using was also an idea in someone’s head before it becomes something tangible that can connect 2 or more parties together.

create intention to successThus, if you think about it, everything starts from your thought. Therefore, what you need to do in order to accomplish great success in life is by creating an intention of what you want to achieve in your mind. Simply think about what you want and believe that you can achieve it.

When you think about something that you want to achieve, you will almost certain that you can achieve it. Most people think about getting back from work to home to watch their favorite drama and series. Guess what, most people achieve that. And if you think about eating burger as dinner, you will also almost certain that you will achieve it.

Your mind will direct you towards what you want. It does not really matter how you are going to do it. As long as you create the intention in your mind, you will eventually come up with an answer.

Put The Right Thoughts Into Your Mind

In other words, if you think about something that is unattainable, your mind will come up with so-called proof to show you why it is unattainable and shut you from doing it. Just think about how unlucky it is for you today and your mind will come up with all sorts of answers to prove to you.

Try out this exercise right now. Think about any negative thought that is coming into your mind now. Think about how bad it is today. Think about how badly your boss treats you. Think about how you lose the deal and think about why your ex dump you.

What comes into your mind? You will notice that whenever you think about those negative thoughts, your mind will support your thoughts by giving you ‘proof’ and show you how bad your day can be.

On the other hand, if you think about great and positive thoughts such as how you are able to close those big deals, why you are so lovely, and so on and so forth, you will come up with answers to support those great thoughts in your mind.

This means that what you think about is very important. This is why you have to put in the right thoughts in your mind all the time. Thinking about what you want will actually help you to come up with ideas how you are going to accomplish them.

Why Vision Boards, Goal Setting And Affirmation Work

Vision boards, goal setting and affirmation work because when you use these tools and techniques, you are actually creating an intentional and focus your thoughts on the results that you want in your life. Whenever you think about what you want, you are enforcing your mind to think the related thoughts that will direct you toward what you want.

It is just like how you arrive to this blog. There must be something that makes you come into this blog. Maybe you are searching for some motivational or self-improvement articles on the internet and you come across this blog. How you come across this blog is not that important, the most important point is why you end up here and what makes your arrival here.

It must be that you are interested with something that my blog is providing and hence, you clicked and come into this blog. So can you see it now? It all starts from a simple thought in your mind.

So just use a vision board and imagine about what you want to accomplish in your life. Set goals to help you stay focused and keep you in the right direction. And use affirmation to consistently deposit great and positive thoughts in your mind.

The more you think about the things that you want in your life, the greater the intention that you are going to create in your mind. And eventually you will do something that is related to your thoughts and as a result, you will take action and produces the results that you think about in your mind.

This is how great achievement can be created. What you have to do right now is to create a vision board and use affirmation to help you to move toward the destination that you wish to go.

Anyone can use these tools and techniques to help them achieve whatever they want in life. Just believe in the power of thought, and you will see how amazing things can happen in your life.

How To Transform Your Life In An Instant

July 28th, 2011

Do you know that you can transform your life in an instant? No matter what happened to you in your life, you have the power to choose what meaning you would like to give it. And it is this power that gives you the ability to transform your life, regardless of where you are, who you are or whatever has happened to you.

how we thinkThink about it, if you are just getting fired from your boss, what does that mean? Well, some people will take it as something bad. They will blame their boss; blame their company for getting rid of them even though they have performed great value for their company.

On the other hand, some people will say to themselves, “Well, thing just happen. This is very common; I guess I will look for another better company that appreciates my worth.”

Same situation, but with a different meaning that you give to it, the results will be totally different. So this is what you are going to find out in this post today. You are going to discover about the power of reframing, so that it can help you move forward and transform your life.

The Law of Polarity: Anything that seems to be extremely negative, when framed with a different perspective, will become extremely positive.

Do you know that life has no meaning at all, except the meaning that you give to life? If you think that life is boring, then you will live a boring life. Conversely, if you think that life is excited, then you will live an excited life.

It is what you choose to frame it that will make it your reality. If you read the biographies of successful people, you will discover that they all have gone through a lot of so-called failures in their lives; however, they did not take it as failures. Somehow, they treat failure differently and they are able to turn the situation from bad to great.

Look at Donald Trump, he frames thing as tests of his resilience and as lessons that make him smarts. This guy made a fortune in real estate in the 1980s and early 1990s. However, the grass is not always green. In the late 1990s, a worldwide depression set in and property prices plummeted. Donald Trump was not spared. His personal fortune was gone and he was US$900 million in debt. The banks moved in to make him bankrupt.

A lot of other real estate guys suffered the same tragedy and convinced that themselves that they were financially ruined and went bankrupt. Donald Trump did not regard this as being the end, it only meant that he had the opportunity to get back to work and turn things around. And eventually he did turn things around. He negotiated for the biggest deals in business history and within 3 years, he made over US$3 billion. He even wrote a book called “The Art Of The Comeback” that talks about how the tragedy made him wiser, stronger and more focused than ever.

Therefore, if you want to be successful, you must learn the art of reframing. Always remember this in your head, it is how you represent your experiences that will determine how you respond, and thus, determine the results that you are going to get in life.

Let me give you some clear examples here. Do you think that poor is something that will limit you from becoming successful or it is something that will actually help you to achieving your dreams? The answer is it depends on what meaning you want to associate to the word ‘poor’.

For most people, they represent poor as a limiting factor that will stop them from becoming more successful. However, there is a smaller group of people who represent poor as an experience that will drive them to be successful. For this group of people, they have the thinking that because they are poor, that is why they need to work harder to earn more money and be successful.

How about if you are in debt? Or if you are not well educated? Or the person who you loved has just left you? Or you are fired by your boss? Or if the economy is not doing well?

I hope that you can see it clearly right now. It is not a matter of which direction that the wind is blowing, it is a matter of how you can control your sail to reach your destination. You cannot control the wind, the economy or whatever bad things that may happen to you, but you can always control how you choose to respond to it.

If you say that your son does not stop talking, you can reframe this negative comment by saying “Good! It means that he has great potential as a speaker!” Or you can reframe it by saying that he is full of creative ideas or he will be the next debate king in school.

No matter how negative the situation may be, there is always a positive side of it. For every head, there will be a tail. Just like Yin and Yang, male and female, black and white, good and bad, etc. If you cannot find the good in it, it simply means that you are still stuck in the negative side and that is why you cannot see the positive.

So, always remember that the meaning you choose to give is the meaning that you create. Thus, you can create any meaning you want in your life. You are the one that will determine how you can respond. Choose reframe all the negatives into the positives, and you will have no problem transforming your life and making your dreams come true.

How To Gain Absolute Power In Your Life

July 21st, 2011

Giving excuses is one of the most common ways to give up the power to control your life. Do you sometimes feel like you have no control over your life? Things just happen out of your control and you just feel down?

power to successThere are many instances and moments that you wish they did not happen in your life, but, this is life, thus, anything can happen.

In this article, I would like to share with you a very powerful principle that you can apply into your life to gain absolute power and take charge of your life again. You might know about this principle in your life, it will be great if you can read this post to the end and refresh your mind about this powerful principle again.

If you want to be in the position of power, it means that you want to change whatever that is not working in your life. If you are living miserably now, it means that you are not in control of your life, you do not have the power to take charge.

For most people, having the power to control their lives is something that is only possible for the minority who were born in the position of power such as business acumen, exceptional talent or lady luck. This is not true at all. In fact, anyone can have the absolute power to control their lives if they want to.

So what is this secret to having absolute power?

The Secret Is Absolute Responsibility

Yes, whenever you take responsibility for whatever happens, it means that you acknowledge that you are the one who is creating the results and the outcomes. And if you are the one who created it, you can then have the power to change it.

Let me give you some clear examples here so that you can have a better understanding. If you take responsibility for your low pay, it means that you actually acknowledge that it is your action and decision that led to your low pay. It may be that you are not creating enough value for your company so that your boss will pay you more, or maybe you are not demonstrating your value to your boss, or it is because you are choosing to work in a company that does not value your worth.

Whatever the issues may be, you must take full responsibility in order to make a change. And when you understand that it is your own decision and action that produces the result that you do not want, you will have the power to change the result by making different decision and acted upon it.

What happen to most people are that they did not take responsibility for their lives and the majority of them will give excuses or blame others. It is fine if you give excuses or blame others once in a while. Everyone makes excuses and gives blame sometimes. However, if you do this consistently, you will never get the successful life that you always desire.

Giving excuses and blaming others will never put you in charge. When the economy is bad and your business is not moving, if you blame the economy, guess what, you will never make any change and the situation will stay the same. On the other hand, if you take the responsibility by making different decision and strategies to grow your business, do you think things will change? The answer is highly likely. There is no guarantee, but if you change your action, you will definitely get different results.

It is just like one plus one. If you keep on adding one with one, you will always get two. If you change the number, such as adding one with three, you will get four, which is a different outcome. This is a common sense, but most people are trapped in it and they never make any changes in their lives. That is why most people are living the same way for so many years. They get trapped in the rat race and are getting nowhere.

Taking full responsibility does not mean that you have to blame yourself. It simply means that you understand that you are the one who is in control and you are the one who created the results. And if you are in charge, then you can change the direction and produce different results.

Well, if your children are rebellious and are not listening to what you say, take the responsibility that you are not communicating well with them. If your students did not do well in the exams, take the responsibility for the way of your teachings that are not efficient. If your staffs are not producing enough value, take the responsibility that you have not tapped into their passion.

Now, you understand how to take absolute power, make sure you understand this as well…

For Things To Change, You Must First Change

Things will never change because of you, you must change in order for things to change. Think about it, if you want to grow your business, but you are not changing any of your strategy, you will keep on getting the same old results. This is why innovation is so important.

If you continue to do the things the same way, guess what will happen? You will be getting the same old outcomes all the time. If you want to change your life, start by changing yourself.

If you want to attract the best staff, you need to first be the best boss. After all, if you are not the best boss, why did the best employee wants to work for you? Therefore, as you can see it now, for things to change, we must first change.

If you want to have a perfect wife, then be the perfect husband. If you want to have high income, add the greatest value to your company and your clients. If you want to attract the best customers, be the best company in your field.

This is how all the extraordinary people did it and it is the one of the most powerful principles of success that you can never miss. Without this powerful principle, you will never produce the results that you are looking for.

So make sure you apply and use this principle in your life throughout the day. Things will change, simply because you have changed.