Can you remember a time when your need to be loved wasn’t being met? When you felt unimportant, disconnected, and alone? It’s an extremely difficult emotion to deal with as we all know too well. And this is the cause of the problem. Our need to be connected and loved is so intense that we will sabotage our own success in order to maintain our precious connections. Here is an example. Imagine your goal is to exercise and get in shape. You’re not extremely overweight or in any danger, you simply want to take better care of yourself.

But then, something like this happens, ‘That sounds foolish.’ ‘Why would you waste your time doing that?’ ‘Who are you kidding? You know you can’t actually stick to it.’ These are the weights that pull you down, the rocks that knock you off course. Your friends and family, with the best of intentions, try to pull you away from your goals. Why did they do this? Because of their need to stay connected with you. If you change and improve yourself, you’ll be stepping into a new life and leave your friends behind. Improving yourself also forces your close friends to examine their own shortcomings. If everyone aims low, no one can notice. But if one person steps up and aims high, everyone else has proof that they are settling for less.

As we’ve already discussed, you have a deeply rooted need to stay connected with the people around you. Feeling that improving yourself will disconnect you from your friends and family, you’ll slowly let go of what could have been a great change in your life. ‘Maybe they’re right, it was a silly idea. I don’t know what I was thinking anyway.’ This is especially true if your dreams and goals are to make more money and become a very successful people. All your friends will look at you differently, and the moment you face obstacles, you will think of your friends and mostly you will give up your ‘big dreams and goals’ and be together with your friends. Even if you are strong enough to stick with your objective, a constant barrage of criticism and doubt will make success impossible. Change is difficult enough. Being surrounded by naysayers adds too many obstacles to the equation.

So how can you change this situation? Very simple, you must first understand your environment, you need to understand your surroundings, include your friends and family. If you do it right, you can change the situation, and it can even give you the motivation and inspiration to your success! Just read You Shape Your Environment for more detail on how you can change your surrounding to motivate and inspire you. Grab more interesting articles from The Millionaire Secrets.

 

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Posted on December 14th, 2007 by Shawn
Filed under: Motivation/Inspiration

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