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How To Cure Inaction And Build Momentum In The Same Time

August 9th, 2011

Do you know that putting your thoughts into action is one of the most difficult challenges that you are going to face in life? In fact, inaction is actually the number one killer of all successes.

inactivity procrastinateThere are a lot of great ideas flowing through your mind each day, but because of inaction, those great ideas become dead. Extraordinary people are great because they make the impossible possible by making their thoughts and their dreams a reality.

I believe that you will some time have the difficulty to take action. You will feel so hard to do it and you just do not have the drive and motivation to do it. And I have a very effective and powerful solution for inactivity. What you are going to learn below can change your life if you apply this technique and transform yourself into a productive person who always makes things happen.

I understand that some time the spirit and the motivation are just not there. This is why you put things off and you procrastinate. Some time it is difficult to come up the drive to wake up early and go for jogging. Some time it is difficult to have the spirit to practice yoga. Some time it is difficult to have the motivation to read and study.

However, there are also time when you have total motivation to do something. I believe that some time you will have the drive to read and study for hours straight because the spirit is just there. And some time you will have the motivation to take action simply because you are driven.

There is one thing that you need to notice here. Do you ever notice that whenever you feel motivation or driven, you are already in the moving?

Many times, when you feel totally motivated, it is the time when you are actually doing the thing. And this is what drives you forward to accomplish more in your life. Therefore, all you need to do is to start your engine and you will have the drive and build up the momentum to go further.

It is exactly like a car. You need to start the engine and warm it up so it can perform better. The same principle applies for the law of momentum. It is hard to push a car to move in the beginning. However, once it started to move, the momentum will build up and you will need less energy to push it.

So how can you apply this principle to help you in your journey to success? How can you use this powerful law to build your momentum so that you will have all the energy to take action and make your dreams come true?

The answer is by starting your engine mechanically.

Yes, all you need to do is to start the engine mechanically without putting in any thought. If you feel difficult to make the calls, just pick up the phone, dial the number and talk, without thinking anything. After a few calls, you will build up the momentum and move the spirit.

The same thing happens if you feel that it is difficult to read and study. Most people will feel sleepy when they opened up the book. They will then find a lot of excuses such as they have eaten too full, they need to call their partners, they need to clean up the closet and many other lousy excuses to procrastinate.

If you are a salesman and you are afraid to knock on a stranger’s door, just do it mechanically. Do not think about anything, empty your mind, just walk straight to the door, knock it, smile, greet the owner and start your presentation. After doing this for a few times, you will build up the momentum and you will have the drive to do it none stop.

Remember, just do it mechanically without putting in much thought. You just want to get it started. You do not have to wait for the spirit to come to you; you can create and move the spirit by using this technique.

Sometimes I find it difficult to come up with ideas for this blog as well. However, I will just open my Microsoft Word and start to type something to get it started. And when I do that, the ideas will start to flow and I will come up with things to write.

Try out this technique and see how powerful and effective it is. Whenever you do not have the motivation to do something, just dig it deeper and do it without thinking or putting any thought into it. In almost no time at all, you will feel the spirit and the momentum will come to you.

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7 Golden Tips To Be Effective Of All Time

June 9th, 2011

Everyone knows that if they can be effective, they can have more free time and get more things done in a day. The problem with most people is that they did not know where their time gone. And after they realized about it, it is often too late for change. Do not let this happen to you.

What you are going to find out here are the 7 golden tips to be effective. This is not something that is difficult to practice or rocket science that is complicated to understand. In fact, these tips are simple and they are easy to implement. It is just whether you are willing to follow through.

effective time managementSo here are the 7 tips that can help you…

1. Plan your day the night before

You can plan earlier if you wanted to, but make sure you plan the latest by the night before the next day. This will save you a lot of time when the next day arrives. You already know what you need to do and you do not have to waste your time thinking about what to do.

It is simple, you just need to get a notepad and write down all the tasks that you need to do. Or you can use your mobile phone as a reminder and key in all the tasks that you need to get done. Another very important key that you will get from this habit is that you will actually get those important things done first.

Just imagine that if you did all the important things in the morning, you will have a lighter and extra time to do other stuff in the afternoon. This will also give you the feeling of satisfaction and confidence.

2. Prioritize the list

If you are going to write down all the tasks that you are going to do for the following day, make sure you prioritize them. There is no point to make a list and do all the unimportant tasks first and leave yourself no time for the important tasks.

Just number each task and you will know what to do. Usually, the important task will be the task that is difficult to do. Highly likely the task will be something that you hate to do or you feel difficult to do or maybe you just want to procrastinate it. So get the most important and the most difficult task done first in the morning and you will feel great after that.

3. Stick to your list

The main key you create a list is that you want to be effective by following through it. If you are not going to follow through your list, there will be no reason creating it in the first place. So just stick to your plan and put in 100% commitment to it.

Do what you plan to do according to the priority. If you need to choose to have a tea break with your colleague or to get the email replied, do the important thing first only then go and have the tea break with whoever you like.

4. Do not procrastinate

This is one of the main reasons most people fail to realize their dreams. Procrastination is a big killer of success. In fact, every one of us procrastinates at times. And every one of us knows how to handle it. When your desire for something is strong, you will do it without procrastinating it.

If you procrastinate on a certain task, it simply means that doing that task is not pleasurable and you feel pain when doing it. There are a lot of tips on how to handle procrastination here in this blog. Just search through and you will learn them.

5. Plan your leisure time

Come on, every one wants to have leisure time. You will break down if you just plan your day for work and no leisure. When you stretch yourself too much, you will eventually fall apart and get nothing done. Leisure time is actually good for refreshment and to relieve tension.

It is said that the more you relax and enjoy the more effective you will be. For me, both must exist in order to be balance. You will feel guilty if you keep on playing and get nothing done. So make sure you plan some time for leisure as well.

6. Stay focused with your goals

Consistently ask yourself whether you are moving toward your goals. If you are doing something that is not helping you move toward the destination you want, it is a waste of time. Like what I have mentioned above, you need to have leisure time as well. However, if you put in too much time into playing, you are actually wasting your life.

So know what is important to you. If your goal is to become the top computer gamer, playing games the whole day actually helping you move toward that goal. This is why you need to know what are your goals and what are you trying to achieve.

7. Do it, delegate it or dump it

Remember, if you can do it, then do it now. If you cannot do it, just delegate it. And if you cannot do it and delegate it, just dump it. The principle here is to do something about it. If you think that washing the toilet is something important, but you do not have the time to do it, just delegate the task. If you do not want to do it or delegate it, you will end up having a dirty toilet until you do something about it. It will then come down to the priority of the task.

These are the 7 simple tips to be more effective in life. If you follow through and apply these tips into your life, I’m sure you will get more out of your life.

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The 3 Most Underutilized Techniques To Handling Procrastination

February 18th, 2011

Handling ProcrastinationProcrastination, one of the most common reasons people fail to accomplish what they want in their lives. This is so common that there are tons of books have been written about this subject. And you know what, everyone procrastinates and put things off. Even the most hard-working people in the world will procrastinate sometimes, but not always.

What I am going to share with you today are the 3 most underutilized techniques how you can overcome procrastination in your life. I strongly believe that you know what you need to do in order to achieve what you want in your life, just that you put things off and are not doing anything about it. Am I right? You know you have to train the dogs before they go wild and go out of control. You know you have to manage your finances in order to have a better financial life.

You know what you need to do, but you are not doing it. And today, you are going to learn how you can handle this problem. So here are the 3 techniques that can help…

Making Public Commitment

The first technique is called public commitment. What you need to do is to tell everyone about what you will have to do. This is a very simple and effective technique in handling procrastination. For example, if you want to go to the gym tomorrow morning, just tell some of your friends, or even better, invite them to go along.

When you do this, you are actually making a public commitment. It is just like you promise your parents that you are going to bring them to China by the end of this year. When you said and promised them, you will have to do it. In other words, you want to put yourself on the line so that you will do whatever it takes to accomplish the task.

Think about it, if you tell everyone that you are going to quit your job and start your own business, will you be more committed? The answer is pretty obvious. Whenever you make a public commitment, you are actually making a promise with yourself. You are actually reinforcing the idea in your subconscious mind. You will think about it all the time and sometimes, those people will remind you about it.

Do not be afraid to share your dreams with other people. If you feel embarrass to share your dreams with others, it simply means that either you are not committed or your dreams are not something worthy to mention.

So what you can do right now is to tell at least 20 people about your dreams and your goals. Share with them and ask them to support you. Tell them to remind you about what you are going to do. I believe most people are willing to help and support if you are serious about it.

Take Immediate Action

The second technique is that you can use to overcome procrastination is to take immediate action right away. How many times you try to do something, but because you think too much and you end up doing nothing? The key to overcome this is by taking immediate action. You just need to get it started.

For example, if you want to write an article but you feel like putting it off, just do it. Just type and the momentum will come to you. Yes, getting started allows you to build up the momentum and thus, get you moving. In fact, this is one of the most powerful techniques available to cure procrastination. You have to adopt the habit of ‘don’t think, just do it’.

The more you think about whether you should do it, the more likely you are not going to do it. The most important thing here is the first step. As long as you take the first step, you will have no problem finishing the task. Before I write this article, I’m facing the same problem. Lingering what should I type or whether should I do other stuff. However, I decide to open up Microsoft Word and just type. Once you have made the first move, the momentum will come.

It is just like a train. It’s hard to move in the beginning, but once it moved, it will be hard to stop. You are the same. Once you get it started, nothing can stop you. Try this technique and you will see how powerful it is.

The Power Of Focus

The third technique is by using your thoughts. What do you think about most of the time when you try to procrastinate? Usually, you will think about how boring doing the task, or you are so tired that you just want to have a good rest. Anyway, there are thousands of reasons that you will think about when you are trying to escape from doing something.

The thing is, you are focusing and thinking about the wrong thoughts. If you focus and think about your future, you will definitely take the necessary action. Let me give you an example. You know that you need to save and invest for your future. However, when you receive your salary, what is the first thought that comes to your mind? Is it that you are thinking about what to buy or how to spend that money? Or do you think about how much to save and invest?

After you came back from work, what are the thoughts that are in your mind? What you think about will determine what you do. If you think that you just came back from work, you are so tired, you need to relax and enjoy, and eventually you will end up wasting time watching dramas, movies or just lie and roll on the bed.

On the other hand, if you focus about your future and you tell yourself that you need to take action to make your dreams come true, do you think you will end up taking action? You know the answer. Thus, focus on the right thoughts and you will be able to produce the right results. Remember, action produces results. If you are not getting the results you want, obviously, you are doing the wrong thing.

Learn to focus on the right thoughts to produce the outcomes that you desire. This is not something easy. However, if you are willing to learn and train your mind to it, you definitely can become extraordinary and successful in your life.

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How To Double Your Productivity Right Now

June 9th, 2010

Do you want to know the secret how you can double your productivity?

I believe everyone wants to learn this secret. Think about it, if you can be productive, you can produce more of the results you want, and hence, getting you toward your goals nearer and faster.

In fact, some people don’t need to use techniques to increase their productivity. They’re doing great in their lives and they are very productive. They have the passion, enthusiasm and the motivation to do it all the time. These are the people who tap into their inner source of motivation. These are the people who have their work and play together.

For them, their work is their play. They like what they do and that is why they are motivated and passionate to do it. You can be the same.

Unfortunately, for most people, they’re not in this category. They’re the people who need either motivation or pressure to get things done.

It is just like a salesman who hates to make cold calls. He knows that making cold calls can help him to close more sales and earn more money, but he just hates to do it. Are you in this category?

Let me give you another example. For internet marketer, after they have set up their website, they need to promote and market their website. However, most people don’t have the motivation to do it. They hate to write articles, posting in the forums, building links and so on.

If this is the kind of problem you are facing, this article is perfect for you. You’re about to discover the solution for it. You will be productive!

Let’s dive into the meat right away…

How To Double Your Productivity

1. Create a reward system

What you have to do is to create a reward system after you have done your chore. For instance, you can reward yourself such as enjoy a hobby, attend a movie, get a massage, go shopping, go for a walk in the garden, pamper yourself with extra sleep, play games, dine out, daydream, go fishing, go for a day trip, etc.

There are many ways you can reward yourself. Of course, we’re not talking about going for holidays in Hawaii. What I’m referring is the instant and small rewards that you can give yourself after you have done what you supposed to do.

This way, your reward will motivate you to take the necessary action and to get things done. It will definitely help to double your productivity as you know once you did it, you’re going to enjoy your reward.

2. Plan your day the night before

Every night before you sleep, write down at least 5 actions that you are going to take on the next day. One of the reasons for doing this is to condition your subconscious about what you need to do on the following day. Other reasons are such as it will better prepare you for what you need to do.

A lot of successful people are using this technique in their daily life. And if successful people are using this technique, I believe you should use it as well.

Try out this technique for the next 21 days and see what will happen.

3. Just do it for 10 minutes

No matter what action that you are trying to put off, as long as you can start the momentum, it will keep you going. Just like a train. It is hard to move, but once it moves, it is hard to stop.

Therefore, when you’re feeling like putting things off, tell yourself that you are going to do for just 10 minutes. Yes, 10 minutes will be more than enough to start your engine and turns you on.

Make cold calls for just 10 minutes. Write articles for just 10 minutes. Go to the gym and exercise for just 10 minutes. Jog for just 10 minutes. And so on and so forth.

Once you started your 10 minutes, you will find the motivation to do more of it. Try this technique and you will see the amazing results you are going to get.

Well, these are just the 3 tips on how to double your productivity that I’m going to share with you. If you want more, stay with me in my blog. I will definitely post more in my blog.

Hope you enjoy what you read and I wish that this information is going to increase your productivity and get you moving!

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How To Overcome Procrastination And Unleash Your Greatness

June 7th, 2010

Lately I learned something new from Mike Litman and I feel so motivated that I want to share with you here.

I learned the strategies how to overcome procrastination and how you can unleash your greatness.

Well, everyone wants to tap into their maximum potential and unleash their greatness in their lives. The bad news is, they just can’t help but keep procrastinating on what they supposed to do. And this seriously block them from achieving what they want.

If you’re reading this right now, be prepared, you’re about to discover some very powerful insights how you can handle procrastination and how you can unleash your greatness.

The Difference Between Greatness And Mediocrity

Do you want to know what is the difference between greatness and mediocrity? What separates success from ordinary?

Well, I will use the example that Mike Litman used in his audio program…

Let’s say that we have Jane and Susan who both want to go to the gym in 10am in the Sunday. They want to keep their bodies in good shape and want to stay healthy.

So when Sunday comes, at 10am, it is raining outside and it is cold. The alarm sounds and Jane is unwilling to wake up. She felt so warm to hide under her blanket. She end up procrastinate and sleep more.

What happened to Susan? The same thing, it is cold out there, and she wishes to hide in her blanket as well. However, 30 minutes later, Susan is in the gym and Jane is not.

Thus, what is the difference between the two?

The difference is this, one person focuses on the reward and the other focuses on the process.

Clearly, Susan sees herself in good body shape and stay healthy, that is why she is able to handle her little thoughts and wake up to go to the gym.

On the other hand, Jane focuses on the process, which is boring, that she needs to wake up early, it is cold out there and she prefers to sleep more.

What did Susan did?

Susan did what most people hate. And do you know what does this mean? It means that in order to be successful, you need to do what most people hate to do.

Think about it, success is not something easy. You need to make more cold calls, you need to meet more clients, you need to learn how to handle procrastination, you need to take more risk, you need to be more hard working and so on and so forth.

So what does this tell you?

It tells you that if you want to be successful, you must do what most people hate to do. You need to form a habit of doing it until you find it interesting and you want to do even more of it.

Can you see the difference between success and mediocrity right now?

If you want to achieve your goals and be successful, you must overcome procrastination by doing what most people hate to do.

And in order to end procrastination, you must focus on the reward instead of the process. This is how you can unleash your greatness. And this is how you can be successful in your life.

So what you can do right now is to ask yourself this question…

“What is the one thing that I hate to do, but if I did it, it will improve the quality of my life?”

Identify this one thing and do it right now. Focus on the rewards or the outcomes that you are going to get from doing it. Don’t focus on the process as this will not motivate you to take action.

This is how you can overcome procrastination and unleash your greatness. This is how you can tap into your maximum potential to achieve what you have set for. This is how successful people did it and how you can be the same.

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How To Learn From Reading A Book

April 23rd, 2010

How many books have you read last year?

If your answer is none or just one, you’d better start planning and read more books. Most people will never read any book after they graduated from their schools.

This is one of the reasons people fail to be remarkable in their lives. If you want to be extraordinary by creating amazing results in your field, you must strive to learn more and read more.

Think about it, if you read a book in a month, you will have read 12 books full of information in a year. If all these 12 books are in the field of investing in the stock market, do you think you will know better after you read the books?

The answer is very obvious.

There are no stupid people in this world, there are only people who are lazy to read and learn.

If you read a book in a month, 12 in a year and you keep doing this for 3 years, you will become so knowledgeable in that particular field.

And when you have the knowledge, you can create amazing results in your life anytime you want.

If you’re a usual reader of my blog, you will know that I always stress about reading and learning.

The problem with most people is that they don’t really know how they can learn from reading a book. For most people, they will just read a book, from pages to pages until the end.

In the process, they will feel great and excited because the book turns them on. However, after they have read the book, they will just put it aside, and nothing ever happen.

They never apply the knowledge or skills taught from the book. They did really feel great about it, but after a few days, their level of motivation will drop to normal.

This is what happening with most people.

You can read a book that teaches you how you can be rich, but if you are not going to apply the techniques in the book, you will end up wasting your time reading that book.

Therefore, make sure you digest and make full use of the book that you buy and read.

Here are some tips how you can learn from reading a book…

1. Read And Think

This is one of the best ways to learn from a book. Don’t just read, read and read. Once you read until a certain paragraph, take a pause and think about the information you have digested.

Most people will keep on reading without thinking. Remember, you want to learn from a book, not to finish the book as soon as possible.

Reading book is not a sprint, it is a marathon, just like success did. So take a short pause and think about the questions that the author throws at you.

2. Read And Jot Down Ideas

Another powerful way to learn from a book.  Reading itself is not enough for you to remember what you have learned.

When you write down the points, you will better remember what you have just learned. This is why most of the authors will ask their readers to read with a pen and paper, so that they can write down whatever important points that come to them at the moment.

Or even better, get yourself a journal or a notepad that specially used to jot down all the important points or lief lessons that you have gone through. I have a few of these books, ^_^

3. Read A Few Times

Do you reread the books you bought?

I will reread some of my books, especially those that I found very inspiring. For example, Awaken The Giant Within, Chicken Soup – Living Your Dreams, The Success Principles and more.

When you reread the book, you not only strengthen what you have learned, sometimes you will even find something new from the book.

Rereading is a very rewarding habit. You don’t have to spend extra money to get yourself a new book, but you can still learn and get inspired by reading the same book.

If you’re skeptical about the power of reading and learning, just look at me.

I’m a nobody, but I believe that I’m providing great information from this blog and some of my e-books. And I believe you can achieve even better results than I do if you really want to.

So just decide to start reading and learning from today onward. And I would love to hear your success story, cheers.

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5 Keys To Living An Extraordinary Life

April 4th, 2010

Do you want to live an extraordinary life? Do you want to live successfully? Do you want to have financial freedom and live a superb lifestyle that you always dream about?

If your answer is a yes, this will be the perfect article for you. I’m going to share with you the 5 keys to living an extraordinary life.

Most people never even thought about living an extraordinary life. That is why most people are living an ordinary life. If you want to be successful, you must first have the heart and the desire to be successful.

If you don’t have the desire, you will never achieve it.

So the first key to living an extraordinary life is…

Key 1 – Have A Burning Desire

It is just like what I mentioned above, you need to have the desire that you want to be successful in order to achieve it. Think about it, if you don’t have the desire, will you achieve it?

The answer is very obvious. Why do you buy a lottery ticket? It is because you want to win the prize. You have a desire to win the prize and that is why you buy it.

And if your desire is not strong enough, you will never buy it. It is only when you have a strong desire about something, you will do it with your full force and make it happen.

This is the most important key that you must possess if you want to create amazing results in your life.

Key 2 – Have A Clear Vision

You cannot hit a target that you cannot see. Thus, what you need is a target, a vision, and a goal. As long as you know what you want to accomplish in your life, you can then move toward that direction and take yourself there when time come.

If you don’t know what you want, how are you going to achieve it? If you study the biography of every successful person in this world, you will notice that they all possess this trait. They know exactly what they want. They can see in their mind the kind of result they want to attain in the future.

So know what you want to accomplish in your life. Create plans and write down all the goals that you are going to achieve in the future.

Key 3 – Be An Avid Learner

An extraordinary person is an avid learner. No matter which field you are in, if you want to be extraordinary in that field, you must be an avid learner and constantly improve yourself there.

For example, someone who is very successful in real estate is willing to learn, talk, get latest news about the real estate industry. An extraordinary teacher always think about his or her students, willing to learn more and improve the quality of their students. They are willing to talk about the issue that their students face and work out solutions together with others.

Learning is one of the most important keys to your long-term success. Learning may seem like a tedious and mundane job, but over the long-term, the powerful impact that you are going to get from it is huge.

Key 4 – Have Passion

Do you have the passion to be extraordinary in your field and in your life? Some people don’t have the passion to be extraordinary in their industry and life. They will just work according to their task. They work because they had to or because their boss ask them to. They will never work because of their passion.

Think about it, if you work in the office and you don’t have the passion in your work, you will never improve. Passion is life. If you want to have more life in your life, you will have to pump in passion into it.

Most people will work during day time and when night fall, they will just go back home and watch television and then go to bed. They make it a routine that they think they HAVE to do it.

Let me tell you, you don’t have to do it. In fact, you don’t have to go to work. It is your choice and your decision that will lead you to the kind of life that you are going to live. You can decide to quit your job tomorrow if you want to, the choice is in your hand.

And if you tell yourself that you don’t have a choice and you need to work, why don’t you just pump in some passion into it since you have made the choice that you are going to work?

Key 5 – Determination And Commitment

Do you have the determination to keep on doing it even if you hit a setback? Do you have the commitment to follow through and make what you have promised yourself come true?

Successful and extraordinary people have both the determination to never give up and the commitment to do it until they achieve the results they desire. Do you have this kind of determination and commitment as well?

If you do, congratulations, you are about to live your dream life and achieve all the goals that you have set.

These are the 5 keys to living an extraordinary life, how many keys do you have at hand right now?

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5 Super Tips How To Handle Criticism

February 23rd, 2010

If you are human, you’ll have to learn how to handle criticism.

No matter who you are, the president, a doctor, a teacher, a student, a salesman, an athlete, etc., you’ll come across criticism in your life.

You should know that if you want to be successful in your life, you must not criticize others. However, even if you don’t criticize others, others might criticize you.

Thus, you need to learn how to handle criticism in order to be productive in your life. Don’t be discourage when others say that you’re stupid. Or don’t be angry at it because if anger fills in your head, all you do is counter.

So here are 5 super tips that I think can help you handle criticism in your life…

1. Keep An Open Mind

You have to understand that this is something very common. When your boss criticize your work, it is normal. Everyone has been criticized by others in their lives.

Like I mentioned above, no matter who you are in this world, you will get criticized by others. You just cannot expect everyone to think just like you.

Even Superman is criticize by others because some people think that he is wearing his underwear on the outside, haha!

So just keep an open mind about it.

2. Enjoy It

Yes, you have to enjoy it. When others are criticizing you, just smile and listen. Even if they may think that you’re out of your mind and crazy, just let them be. Even better, you may break their pattern and help to turn the situation around.

If you think about it properly, why do people criticize you in the first place? It is because they care about you. If they don’t care about you, they won’t criticize you.

It is just that the way they express themselves are inappropriate.

Thus, just enjoy it when people criticize you.

3. Distinguish Between Feedback And Insult

People are not criticizing you most of the time. You have to understand and know to differentiate feedback from insult.

Usually, people will give you feedback, but because you have been conditioned in such a way that you think you are right, so you’ll treat their feedback as criticism or insult.

Just like if you believe now is the right time to invest in the stock market but your friends don’t think so. What you need to do then is just treat their opinion as feedback, find out more information about what they have told you, do research and validate if what they told you is correct.

Feedback is what will help you to get forward in your life, and you need feedback to improve and achieve your goals.

4. Consider The Source

Just consider the source when someone criticize you. If someone says that you look ugly, don’t get discourage by him or her. Just consider the source. Is the source something qualify to say so?

For example, if your parents are telling you that investing is risky, will you listen to them? Do you think they qualify to say so? Yes if they are great investor. No if they don’t do any investment.

When you consult a doctor and the doctor prescribe you the medicine, do you believe in him? Will you take the medicine? Chances are, most of us do, because it is the doctor who said so. The source is a qualify source?

If you go to a pet store and a parrot yells at you, “you’re ugly and stupid!” What will you do? Feel sad about it? Feel angry and would like to kill that parrot? Or will you think, “wow! This is a cool parrot! However, I don’t believe in what you said because you’re just a parrot”?

Can you see it now? Consider the source when someone criticize you.

5. Just Let It Slide

This is the easiest tips of all. When you’re down, focus on something that will make you happy. Just like when you’re feeling stressed, take a walk in the garden, do something else that will take away your attention from the criticism and you’ll feel better.

Don’t think about the criticism, instead, think about something else. And don’t tell your mind to not think about it. This is because when you do so, you’ll focus your thought on it.

Just like if I tell you don’t think about the color red, what will come into your mind? The color red!

So what you have to do is to focus on some other things. Divert your attention to other stuff so that you’ll forget about it and feel better after you come back for it.

These are the 5 super tips how to handle criticism. I hope these are going to help you in your life. What do you think about these super tips? Let me know in the comment section.

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3 Simple Tips How To Deal With Failure

February 3rd, 2010

Failure, one of the most feared topics by people. If you’re having difficulty in dealing with failure, this will be the perfect post for you.

What I’m going to share with you here today are the 3 simple tips how you can deal with failure successfully.

I know that this is a very common problem that most people will face in their life. Unfortunately, most people are not doing anything to cope with it. Instead, they let their fear of failure causes them to fail.

Let’s dive right into the meat, I know you want to learn these tips right now…

1. Is It The Actual Failure Or The Fear Of Failure?

When the feeling of failing struck you, ask yourself this question, “what am I afraid of, the failure or the fear of failing?”

“I’ll do what I fear and fear will disappear” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

Understand this, people experience the fear of failure because it is what is happening in their mind. The failure itself is not fatal. It is the fear of failure that causes most people to fail.

Think about it, before you actually do something, you afraid that you’re going to fail. This shows that it is your fear, your thinking, your feeling and your emotion that is creating the feeling of fear.

Or maybe after you have tried something else and you failed. Now, you developed the fear of failing and you don’t dare to take any actions anymore. The same thing is happening here.

It is the fear, the feeling and your thinking that is causing you to feel the fear, not the event or the ‘failure’.

Whenever you understand this, you can better handle the fear because it is something that you created by yourself. The fear is created in your mind and your thoughts.

Therefore, what you need to do in order to deal with it, is to deal with yourself, your mind and your thoughts.

2. Ask Yourself These Questions

Take the example that you are afraid of public speaking, but deep down in your mind, you got a burning desire to be an inspirational speaker.

Every time when you face the crowd, you will freeze and start shivering. Well, now you have only two choices, either you give up to be your favorite inspirational speaker and running away, or you can choose to conquer your fear.

When this happen, ask these questions…

What is the worst that could happen?

If you were to speak in front of a crowd, what is the worst that could happen? They could laugh at you or think that you’re an idiot. You might stutter and forget what you’re suppose to say and get embarrassed.

But let me tell you one thing, nobody will remember how worse you are once you’ve succeed. People will only think of your good thing, trust me.

Think about Thomas Edison, he failed more than thousand times, but when you ask someone about Thomas Edison, people will only told you that he is a great inventor.

If the worst were to happen, could he live with it?

Oh well, sure you can live with it. Take it as you’re making jokes in front of the public. You won’t get killed you won’t die if the worst were to happen. So start thinking clearly, and you will banish the fear feeling.

If the worst were to happen, will you lose anything?

If the public laugh at you and think that you’re an idiot, or if you did get stucked and forgot what you supposed to say, will you lose anything?

Not really, maybe your pride will hurt a little, but you’re not going to lose anything permanently.

Maybe you will lose a little self-esteem temporarily, but if you really think of it clearly, if you have conquer the feeling of fear, you’re actually building up your self-esteem!

What is the best possible outcome?

For the case here, you could inspire thousands of people, you could motivates people to a better life. You could then hone your skill and grow more self-confident and therefore speaks more convincingly in the future.

Compare the worst possible outcome with the best possible outcome.

If the worst result is that you stutter or forget a few things or even have people laugh at you, while the best outcome is that you inspire and motivate people to live a better life, and you will turn to a professional speaker, you will say that the best outcome far outweigh the worst.

Maybe you could think of it this way, if you could conquer fear then all of your dreams will come true, isn’t that your dreams come true is much more interesting? So what are fears? They’re nothing but just a feeling that lies in your mind.

Based on all the facts, what is your most likely outcome?

You will only get nervous get worry if you focus on yourself, but if you take it as you’re here to serve people, to help people, your nervousness will disappear.

You could create a mental slide show of yourself on stage, with all your facts, interesting points and stories, and see yourself done the presentation successfully.

You will do very well speaking, will expect as much, and will prepare in advance and practice to make this happen easily and effortlessly.

See, by analyzing your fears, you can discover amazing way to push through them. And you must remember this, the feeling of fear only exist in your mind.

3. Use Positive Affirmations To Bring Back Motivation

After you have went through the first 2 tips, you can use positive affirmations to bring back your motivation and never to fear failure anymore.

Positive affirmations such as “I’m good enough, in fact, I’m great!” or “I’m destined for great success!” are amazing in keeping you motivated.

And here’s a famous affirmation that you can use…

“SW SW SW Next – Some Won’t, Some will, So What, Next!”

Just think about Thomas Edison, Wright Brothers, Sylvester Stallone and Henry Ford, how much rejections and failure they’ve faced before? A lot more than ordinary people.

In fact, the more you get rejected, the more success you are!

And what do you remember of them? Only their successes. So you see, people will not remember about your failure, people will only remember your successes, your amazing results.

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3 Positive Self-Talk That Will Overcome Procrastination

January 20th, 2010

Do you want to learn how to overcome procrastination? Are you putting things off?

I believe that everyone faces the challenges of procrastination in their daily life. No matter who you are, a doctor, an engineering, a super successful businessman, you’ll face with issues with your personal productivity.

And I believe that to deal with procrastination, you will have to find and cure the source.

What I mean is, you need to know what is causing you to procrastinate and how you procrastinate before you can prevent it.

Most personal productivity books will just tell you that to be more productive, you need to create a to-do list, organize your tasks, do the most important task first and so on.

However, this will not help you overcome procrastination. These techniques can help you to be more productive and get more things done, but they never deal with the source of procrastination within you.

The source of procrastination is deep within you, in your mind, and you work it out as a habit.

I found self-talk a powerful strategy to overcome procrastination. Whenever you want to get a task done, you will ask yourself questions before you proceed to do it.

So if you can deal and act before you actually procrastinate, you will be able to put yourself into action and do the task.

Some people will talk to themselves like, “should I really do this?” “God, I hate this part.” “I’m going to spend all my time here, what a boring thing to do.”

What if you talk to yourself positively before doing the task? What if you tell yourself, “How am I going to enjoy with this today?” Or “Where can I start today?”

Do you think this is going to help you overcome procrastination? You bet! The answer is a BIG yes!

So here are the 3 positive self-talk you can use to help you avoid procrastination in your life…

1. Tell yourself you’ll enjoying doing it.

When you have to get your task done, ask yourself, “how am I going to enjoy doing this now?” This is going to interrupt your pattern because this is not the way you use to act.

And if your pattern gets interrupted, you will never focus on how boring or mundane the task is. What you’ll do then is that your brain will start to search for answer of how you can enjoy doing it.

Try it, it really works. Even before I’m typing this post here, I’m thinking about how am I going to enjoy and share this great tip with you.

2. Tell yourself that you can accomplish a small step.

Many people focus on the big task instead of the small task that they should get it done. When you focus on the big task, you’ll feel your mind with fear. You’ll fear of the massive amount of time you’re going to pour in. You’ll fear if you cannot get it done by the deadline. You’ll feel the fear and feel overwhelm.

Confucius has a very interesting quote on this, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. Yes, no matter how big the project is, you will have to start by taking one small step at a time.

You cannot build a house at once. You cannot write a book in a day. However, you can start by designing the house, pour the concrete, laying the bricks, and so on and so forth. It is the same for everything in life.

You can take just one small step to accomplish a big project right now. Maybe you can draft a plan for your project, maybe it is a phone call, or maybe it is saying “hello” to somebody.

So ask yourself, “what one small step can I take today?” This will help you to avoid putting things off.

3. Tell yourself, “I wish to” instead of saying “I should” or “I have” to.

In the world of psychology, the word “I have to” or “I should” creates the emotion of unwillingness to do it.

When you say that you have to do it, you are telling yourself that you need to get it done, but you feel like don’t want to do it.

So change the word to “wish”. Say to yourself “I wish to study tonight” instead of saying “I have to study tonight”.

You can try this little change right now and feel the change in emotion and feeling in you. Close your eyes and imagine all the task that you need to do in order to achieve your goals.

Think by using the word “have”. For instance, you can think, “I have to do this, I have to do that, I have to…”

Now, change the word to “wish”. What do you feel?

Try to use this word and make it a habit to use it.

And these are the 3 positive self-talk strategies that will help you to overcome procrastination.

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