Success Principles

Ask For What You Want

December 29, 2008 , 1 Shawn

Yes, you’ve to ask for what you want in your life.

If you want to be rich, ask for more money. If you want to be healthy, ask to be more healthy. It is just like when you’re in your schooling days, when you have any difficulties or something that you don’t understand, you’ve a choice. To choose to ask and solve the difficulties or to keep quiet and stay the same.

Here is the thing that most people don’t know about the art of asking…

Many people afraid of asking is because that they are afraid of the fear of rejection. When you ask for a pay raise and you get rejected, you’ll feel embarrass and it is just not worthy to ask for it.

Let me tell you this, even if you get rejected, you’re still the same, nothing ever happen that will make the situation worse. Allow me to explain this. Lets say that you’re alone for the dinner tonight and you think of wanting to date someone to have dinner together with you.

If you successfully dated someone to have dinner together with you, you’ve succeeded, which is a good thing.

What if you get rejected? Nothing ever happen, you’re still the same. You’re alone and you have your dinner alone. It is just like you haven’t dated someone for the dinner. Isn’t it?

Many people thought that if they get rejected, they’ll make the situation worse. No, it is not. You just stay at the same point like before you ask for it.

The situation ONLY becomes worse when you think something EXTRA like people are going to say that you’re greedy, people are going to think that you’re a fool or you’re embarrassing yourself.

As you can see now, it is all the FALSE realization that you make about yourself that makes the situation worse.

You’re still the same even if you get rejected. If you’ve a business proposal and you would like to look for business partners but you don’t dare to ask for it, you’ll still be at the same situation where you have the business proposal in your hand, but you don’t have any chance to make it come true.

It Is Just A Numbers Game

The founder of KFC, Colonel Harland Sanders, reject rejections over hundreds of times before he finally succeeded in his life. The success strategy here is not to give up. When someone says a no, you just say “Next!”

When Colonel Harland Sanders left home with his pressure cooker and his special recipe for cooking Southern fried chicken, he received over 300 rejections before he found someone to believe in his dream. And because he rejected rejection over 300 times, there are now 11,000 KFC restaurants in 80 countries around the world.

If someone tells you no, you just keep continue and look for somebody else. Remember, there are more than 5 billion people in the world, someone, somewhere, sometime will say yes.

So don’t stuck in your own fear and stop moving. You need to keep on moving to get into a new position. If you stay at the same point, you’ll remain the same. If you’re poor right now, but you’re not doing anything to improve that situation, you’ll remain poor.

If you’re earning $1,000 a month but you don’t dare to ask for a raise, you’ll be earning $1,000 a month unless you take the step and ask for a pay raise.

The key in asking for what you want is to take the first step and keep on asking until you get what you want in your life. Studies have revealed that most of the sales are made after the 7th contact point. Unfortunately, most salespeople try only the first few times and they give up, saying to themselves that it is not working.

Now you’ve learned one of the success strategies you can use in your life. I hope that you’ll apply this in your life and achieve what you dream all this while.