‘If only I had more time.’
‘If only my husband could be more understanding.’
‘If only my boss would die!’
‘If only my son could be more motivated.’
‘If only I could get better customers.’
Heard all these before? These are the common excuses that you can hear in your life. People who believe themselves to be victims say that the only way for their life to change for the better is when other people get better. As long as you keep thinking that it is not your fault, that something else must change, you will continue to feel helpless and powerless. By continuing to play the victim, you will be totally at the mercy of your environment.
Time to time, we find ourselves unconsciously lapsing into victim mode until it lead to being an undesirable part of makeup Do you have friends and acquaintances who complain non-stop about their employers, colleagues, spouse, society at large, or the government? How about you? Why do we do this? The simple reason being it makes us feel good! By playing the victim, we get a lot of sympathy, don’t we? At the same time, we want to feel assured that we were in the right by justifying our own actions.
Soon, complaining becomes therapeutic. After all the complaining, we actually feel relieved of an emotional burden. Beneficial as it may seem, though playing the victim appears to have a lot of payoffs, the cost of doing so is high for as long as we blame something or someone else, we rob ourselves of the power to take charge, and change the situation. The reality is that most people act in a way that puts others in charge of their life.
When something doesn’t work in their life, they choose to give excuses, blame others and complain. The problem with this is that by doing so, you are putting others in control of your life. You put yourself in the role of victim. This is the reason causing most people feel totally helpless, with no control over what is happening to them. Most of the time the outside world will not change…not until we change first! Read more from The Millionaire Secrets.
I’ve changed to “If only I knew more”, and have begun doing things about that by learning more!
Great post, as usual!
Hi Ann, thanks for leaving comments again.
Well, happy blogging~!